2014: We’ve been continuing to meet weekly.
October to December 2013: We met each Monday for worship and baked potatoes.
September 2013: Our book group met on 20 September for a slightly longer book than usual: Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. On Monday 23 September, we restarted weekly meetings as well. We decided that we’ll meet each Monday for worship and then a baked potato supper, with an optional pub or local cafe afterwards.
April to July 2013: We gradually stopped our weekly meeting on Thursdays, but the book group continued once per month on Fridays. On 19 April we discussed Looking for Alaska and we were interested in Skellig as well. On Friday 17 May, we discussed Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell. On 21 June we covered the Little Black Book of Stories. On 19 July we discussed Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep.
March 2013: We met on certain Thursdays. On Friday 15 March, our book group discussed The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat.
February 2013: We met each Thursday. In addition, on Friday 8 February our book group discussed A Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich; we moved temporarily from the third Friday of the month to avoid a clash with YFGM.
January 2013: Each Thursday we met for worship, sometimes with a special theme (for instance, on 31 January the plan was to bring readings on the subject of peace). On Friday 18 January our book group discussed Cloud Atlas.
December 2012: We met most weeks, and our monthly book group discussed The Snow Child on Friday 21 December.
November 2012: We met weekly. Readings before worship included Advices and Queries #8 for example. On 15 November we made a communal green vegetable soup together (click for the stone soup story), and the next day five of us attended our book group, discussing The Spy Who Came in From the Cold. We also planned Christmas-card writing for 22 November and for 29 November a Christmas-themed social evening consisting of a bring-and-share meal, mulled apple juice and carols.
25 October 2012: five of us met, and we read and discussed Advices and Queries #1.
18 October 2012: Meeting for worship was attended by eight young adult Friends. We read Advices and Queries #27, and shared our responses to this afterwards.
11 October 2012: Five of us met for worship. Before worship we read Advices and Queries #2, and we discussed our responses to this after worship.
4 October 2012: Four of us had meeting for worship. Before worship we read Quaker Faith and Practice 20.07.
September 2012: We met weekly, and on 21 September our book group discussed An Equal Music.
July-August 2012: We met weekly in July. On Friday 13 July (not the third Friday of the month, so as not to clash with Friday with Friends) our book club discussed Digging to America. On 19 July we watched The People’s Crisis. August was a quieter month for us, while the Meeting House was closed to the public as usual owing to summer holidays.
June 2012: We met each Thursday; for example on 14 June seven of us met for worship and we listened to the song Friend Speaks my Mind by Jon Watts (the lines “I’m not a Christian, but I’m a Quaker; I’ve got Christ’s inner light but he’s not my saviour”, provoked discussion). On Friday 15 June we discussed the book Neverwhere. On 30 June we cycled about 20 miles to Charney Bassett, had a meal and then cycled back.
May 2012: Weekly meetings continued, and on Thursday 10 May we brought along music to share. On 17 May we wrote cards to send to other Young Adult Friends in other meetings around the world. At our monthly book club meeting on Friday 18 May, four of us talked about Gods Behaving Badly.
April 2012: We met each Thursday, and on Friday 20 April we discussed The Year of the Hare.
March 2012: We met each Thursday evening for worship. On Friday 15 March we discussed The Corner.
23 February 2012: About six of us met for worship.
16 February 2012: About six of us met for worship and we decided to start a monthly book club (open to others beyond Young Adult Friends).
2 & 9 February 2012: Some of us met for worship.
19 & 26 January 2012: Some of us met for worship.
12 January 2012: Six Friends met for worship in the Meeting House. Before worship, we heard about a poem that Adam had recently encountered.
6 January 2012: Six Friends met for worship in the Library. Before worship, we read some historical advice given by London Yearly Meeting on the keeping of good accounts.
22 December 2011: In the Library, two Friends met for worship and discussion of hopes and dreams for 2012. Afterwards we went to G&D’s ice cream parlour.
Tuesday 20 December 2011: Social event without meeting for worship. Several Friends met at the home of Beth Howard to socialise over cocoa and mince pies.
15 December 2011: In the Library, six Friends met for worship and to send greetings to Quakers around the world. We wrote cards to Friends in Wales, Ireland, Canada, USA, India, Latvia, Kenya, Australia and Japan.
8 December 2011: Two Friends met for worship in the Meeting House. Before worship, the second advice from the 1964 Advices and Queries was read: “Seek to know one another in the things which are eternal. Live in love as Christian brethren, entering with sympathy into the joys and sorrows of each other’s daily lives. Be ready to give help, and to accept it. Bear the burden of each other’s failings, and pray for one another.”
1 December 2011: Two of us met for worship, at our new time of 7 for 7:30 pm, but no rooms were available.
24 November 2011: Six Friends met for worship in the Meeting House, and afterwards discussed the role of Quakers in the development of banking in the UK.
17 November 2011: Five of us met for silent worship, with no reading. Afterwards six of us chatted briefly. We were in the large space of the Meeting House itself – we hadn’t done this for many years!
10 November 2011: About seven of us gathered in the Meeting House’s office, and Matt read Advices and Queries #13. We then met for worship and afterwards briefly discussed vocal ministry.
3 November 2011: Seven of us met for worship in the office. Afterwards we discussed the role of angels in our religious experiences.
27 October 2011: We met to discuss our meetings over the remainder of the autumn/winter and to consider what we needed to think about as a group.
21-23 October 2011: Four of us went to Lancaster for the YFGM.
20 October 2011: Four of us held worship and Matt read an article about Martin Luther King III following the recent killing of Osama Bin Laden.
13 October 2011: Becky coordinated an activity in which about a dozen of us learned more about one another by answering questions picked out of a hat.
6 October 2011: Thank you to guest Val Ferguson of Oxford Meeting, who spoke on the topic of the ‘History of Quakerism’.
29 September 2011: Two of us met for worship followed by discussion on the theme of ‘migration’. Beforehand, Adam circulated links to some videos.
22 September 2011: We met for worship followed by discussion and reflection about prayer. Beforehand, Becky suggested we look at QF&P 2.18 to 2.34.
15 September 2011: We met for worship followed by discussion on theme of ‘community’, co-ordinated by Beth.
8 September 2011: We met for worship and reflection on the subject of Young Friends. We decided to try using the name ‘Young Adult Friends’ rather than ‘Young Friends’ to indicate we are Young Adults rather than teenagers/children; Young Adult Friends is the normal term in North America.
1 September 2011: We met for worship and reflection, co-ordinated by Adam.
25 August 2011: Nine of us met for a vegetarian bring-and-share meal, followed by meeting for worship.
11 August 2011: Eight of us met and heard the Yearly Meeting epistle. Friends who had been to Yearly Meeting described what happened there, led by Matt and Beth.
4 August 2011: Seven met in the meeting house library to worship and explore the theme ‘love one another’, using three Bible readings chosen by Matthew Gee: John 13:34-35, Matthew 25:34-40, Matthew 5:43-48. Afterwards some of us went to G&D’s for ice cream.
28 July 2011: Seven of us had free-form worship in the garden, and Matt chose a reading in the form ofAdvices and Queries #3.
21 July 2011: Six of us had worship and reflection, and Dan chose the reading: Luke 12:22-31.
14 July 2011: Seven of us met and Adam helped us explore the spiritual writing of William Penn, especially his ‘Fruits of Solitude’.
7 July 2011: Jessie co-ordinated a Desert Island Discs theme: five of us brought a piece of music which meant something to us, sharing our music with the group and hearing why each person chose their piece.
23 June 2011: Becky co-ordinated a spiritual version of Show and Tell, where we brought in an object, photograph, or picture of anything that meant something to them, e.g. spiritually valuable, personally valuable, physically valuable etc. We then shared what we brought and explained our objects’ value, in the form of “worship-sharing”, in that each person was given an opportunity to speak if they so wished, surrounded by supportive periods of silence.
16 June 2011: Six of us explored and discussed the acceptability of various situations which might arise in a meeting for worship, using the Boundaries Game. Afterwards we had a short period of worship together. The next day, we created a Facebook page.
9 June 2011: Following a bring-and-share picnic in Port Meadow, we went to the Meeting House for a business meeting to consider how Young Friends (as Young Adult Friends was known then) operates and develops.
2 June 2011: Before worship, Chris G. played a short piece of electronic music he’d brought along.
19 May 2011: Seven of us met for worship. Chris W. led a discussion on the theme of ‘compromise’. We didn’t meet as a group the following week, in order to attend a public talk by Jocelyn Bell Burnell on ‘Hope in the Universe: Astronomy and Faith’.
12 May 2011: Nine of us met for worship. Before worship, Holly read Isaiah 40:28-31. Two of us went to the Eagle and Child afterwards.
5 May 2011: Nine of us met for worship and discussion, and a few went to the Eagle and Child afterwards.
28 April 2011: Fifteen of us met for worship, which started with Jack reading one of the Queries for Individual Friends from the Book of Discipline of North Carolina Yearly Meeting (Conservative): ‘Am I careful to wait upon the guidance of the Holy Spirit in all my ways? Have I learned to distinguish inspiration from impulse? Insight from temptation? Patience from laziness?’ Afterwards we had open-ended worship, which continued for around two hours.
21 April 2011: Before worship, Matthew Gee read 1 Samuel 3:1-10. The nine of us then moved into worship sharing based on our responses to this passage, using a format based on Friendly Bible Study. Some of us went to the Lamb & Flag to socialise afterwards.
17 April 2011: Seven of us joined with other Friends for meeting for worship at Adderbury in north Oxfordshire.
16 April 2011: Some of us attended the OxFolk ceilidh.
14 April 2011: On Jessie’s suggestion, we had a session about attitudes towards alcohol and drugs. Seven of us met, Jessie read Quaker Faith & Practice 20.40 before worship, and afterwards we discussed our own attitudes to alcohol and drugs, and how this interacts with our faith, beliefs and religious experience. Some of us went for ice cream at G&D’s to socialise afterwards.
7 April 2011: At the start of worship, Jack read Paradise Lost, Book 12, lines 637-49. After worship, the seven of us considered what the story of Adam and Eve leaving Eden means to us today. Some of us went to the Lamb & Flag afterwards.
31 March 2011: About ten of us had meeting for worship. Afterwards we had a session considering close relationships, including how God is encompassed within them, inspired by some readings put together by Holly. Some of us went on to the Eagle & Child for social time at the end.
24 March 2011: Seven of us met. Adrian read two passages before meeting for worship: the first was from ‘The testimony of Margaret Fox concerning her late husband’, in The Journal of George Fox, 1694 (Quaker Faith & Practice 19.07); this contained the famous “what canst thou say?” query; the second was ‘The Silence’, a poem by Wendell Berry. After meeting for worship we considered the role of vocal ministry in worship. Afterwards we went to the Eagle & Child.
17 March 2011: Quaker Faith & Practice 25.09 was read by Matt before meeting for worship, and afterwards we discussed addiction and simplicity.
10 March 2011: Nine of us met worship, and afterwards had a worship-sharing session about why we are Quakers, facilitated by Sally, who started by reading Quaker Faith & Practice 21.19.
3 March 2011: Before meeting for worship, Katherine read the prose poem ‘Desiderata’.
24 February 2011: We had a bring-and-share supper in the kitchen, followed by worship sharing on ‘Living Your Faith’ in the Short Room.
17 February 2011: Before our meeting for worship and discussion, on Holly’s suggestion we read the poem ‘Times of Trial’.
10 February 2011: On Rachel’s suggestion we read QF&P 21.06 before our meeting for worship and the Afterword.
3 February 2011: Thirteen of us met to hold a planning meeting. Our last was in September and our next will be on 9 June.
27 January 2011, social event without MfW: We met at The Gardener’s Arms pub before walking to FMH where we joined older Friends for the final ‘Quakers in Focus’ meeting – a presentation about meetings for worship for Business, including an example where we pretended to choose a colour to paint the Meeting House.
23 January 2011: There was a joint meeting with Oxford Local Meeting, where both we and other members of Oxford Local Meeting explored issues related to Young Friends (as Young Adult Friends were known then) together, particularly exploring the relationship between Young Friends and the rest of the meeting.
20 January 2011, social event without meeting for worship: Seven of us met at The Gardener’s Arms pub (OX2 6JE) before walking to north Oxford where we joined older Friends to share favourite bits of the Bible in a Quakers in Focus evening.
13 January 2011, social event without MfW: Four of us met for vegetarian food at The Gardener’s Arms before joining with other Friends in north Oxford to hear two Friends talk on the topic of ‘truth’ at a Quakers in Focus evening.
6 January 2011: Five of us met for worship. We read and reflected on a quote from The Prophet by Kahil Gibran: “For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.” Afterwards we went to The Eagle and Child.
30 December 2010, social event without MfW: Four of us met at the Meeting House where we chatted over mince pies and mulled (non-alcoholic) ginger beer.
16 December 2010: Four of us held a meeting for worship followed by discussion.
9 December 2010: Six of us held a meeting for worship followed by discussion.
2 December 2010: Three of us had meeting for worship and a bring-and-share pudding on a Christmas theme.
25 November 2010: We held a meeting for worship followed by discussion, and beforehand we’d decided to read Quaker Faith and Practice 20.06.
17 November 2010, social event without MfW: Six of us had dinner at the Al-Shami Lebanese Restaurant (25 Walton Crescent) rather than a meeting for worship the next day. This avoided a schedule conflict with Quakers in focus.
11 November 2010, Garden Room: Eight of us met for worship, before one or two more joined in and we had a short discussion on ‘silence’ and shared pudding together.
4 November 2010: Three of us attended a bring and share vegetarian meal at Rachel and Tim’s house.
31 October 2010: We participated in Oxford Meeting’s monthly bring-and-share lunch, this time with students eating ‘for free’.
28 October 2010: Meeting for worship followed by the final discussion in the series around Quaker testimony – this time eight of us discussed equality.
22 to 24 October 2010: Young Friends General Meeting. Some of us attended the national meeting of Young Friends in Britain, taking place in Liverpool this time.
21 October 2010: Twelve of us had meeting for worship and then we continued the series of themed discussions around Quaker testimony – this time simplicity. Afterwards some went to the pub and then to G&D’s ice cream parlour.
14 October 2010: We held meeting for worship followed by discussion: Truth. This continued our series of themed discussions around Quaker testimony.
7 October 2010, Warden’s office: Fourteen of us met for meeting for worship which was followed by a wide-ranging discussion encompassing various aspects of peace, pacifism, violence and nonviolence.
1-3 October 2010: Three of us attended Pacifism Today, a course at Woodbrooke, the Quaker study centre in Birmingham.
26 September 2010 social event without MfW: After the monthly bring-and-share lunch at the Meeting House, six of us punted from Wolfson College to the Victoria Arms and back, and then some had hot drinks in G&D’s.
23 September 2010, Library: Eight of us had a meeting for worship followed by discussion about the last paragraph of QF&P 23.61.
19 September 2010: Three of us attended the Adderbury Meeting for worship at 2:30 p.m., less than 20 miles north of Oxford. We joined local Friends for meeting in their historic, simple meeting house in tranquil surroundings in North Oxfordshire, which has no electricity, gas or running water. Meeting for worship is held there once a month in the afternoon.
16 September 2010, Library: Nine of us held a planning meeting to discuss stuff in general and agree to a programme of upcoming events.
15 September, 2010 social event without MfW: Three of us met at the Nosebag, went to the New Theatre to watch House of Ghosts, and had a drink in the Crown.
9 September 2010, Library: A regular meeting.
2 September 2010, Long Room: Four of us met and we went to the Eagle & Child afterwards.
26 August 2010, Garden Room: Seven of us met and we lost Matthew for fifteen minutes. Before the Meeting for worship we read a little-known poem called The Invitation. We skipped discussion and headed to the Eagle & Child a bit earlier than normal.
19 August 2010, Garden Room and Kitchen: Six of us gathered for Meeting for worship at seven o’clock, and at eight eight ate a vegetarian dinner.
15 August 2010: Four of us visited Headington Meeting for their 10-11 a.m. Meeting for worship, followed by a shared lunch at the Area Meeting clerk’s house nearby. Getting home, some of us followed approximately the nice forested walk between the two Meetings.
12 August 2010, Library: Seven of us met. Afterwards we went to the Eagle & Child.
6 August 2010: Eight of us had a goodbye party for Barney and Oliver, which Matt Godwin hosted at his house.
5 August 2010, Library: Seven of us met. Afterwards we went to the Eagle & Child.
29 July 2010, Library: Six of us met and read Advices and Queries #7 before the meeting for worship.
22 July 2010, Library: About five of us met. Afterwards we went to the pub, Jude the Obscure.
15 July 2010 social event without MfW: We walked from Friends Meeting House to the Nosebag restaurant, where five of us had dinner at 7 p.m. Some of us walked to Puccino’s for tea afterwards.
8 July 2010, Library: Twelve of us, including four visitors from Abilene Christian University, met for meeting for worship in the Warden’s Office, followed by discussion in the garden. We did not feel led to have a reading. Some of us went on to the Eagle & Child for drinks afterwards.
24 June 2010, Library: Five of us met and read QF&P 20.01 and went to the Eagle & Child afterwards.
17 June, 2010: Five of us went to Port Meadow for meeting for worship and an evening picnic, followed by a trip to The Gardener’s Arms pub.
10 June 2010, Library: We gathered an hour early to discuss the paragraphs we especially liked fromAdvices & Queries, and why we liked them. We also considered additions, among other things. Finally we read Advices and Queries #13 before the ten of us held meeting for worship and went to the Eagle & Child.
3 June 2010, Library: Over a dozen of us, including outside guests, met for a shared supper and a film showing (The Iron Wall, one hour) as part of the World Week for Peace in Palestine and Israel. The documentary looked at the settlements in the West Bank and explored the effect that they have had on the peace process. Thanks to Amy Merone and Hannah Brock.
27 May 2010, Library: Eight of us met and read Advices and Queries #6 before the meeting for worship.
20 May 2010, Library: About eight of us met and read Quaker Faith & Practice 26.39. We walked to the Eagle & Child afterwards.
13 May 2010 social event without MfW: We walked from Friends Meeting House to the Nosebag restaurant, where the eight of us plus Brigid ate dinner at seven o’clock.
6 May 2010, Library: Six of us met for worship with no reading beforehand; we went to the pub and some went to an election party afterwards.
5 May 2010, Warden’s office: Chocolate tasting and a planning meeting. Six of us met to discuss new ideas of what to do and agree a programme for the next five months.
29 April 2010, Library, Spiritual Review: Six of us met and, responding to a request from Oxford Meeting’s Elders, discussed the following: What are our aspirations for our meeting? What does our meeting do well in enabling Friends to ‘get to know one another in the things which are eternal’? What further action do you feel the meeting should take in order to deepen the spiritual life of the meeting and its expression in caring? We finished with twenty minutes of MfW and some went to the Eagle & Child.
22 April 2010, Library: Eight of us met and read Advices and Queries #7. Some of us walked to the Eagle & Child afterwards.
15 April 2010 social event without MfW: Ten of us gathered at Matthew Gee’s flat in Banbury. He’d cooked many vegetarian curries, and we played two parlour games including Consequences.
8 April 2010, Library: Seven of us met and read Advices and Queries #4. Some of us walked to the Lamb & Flag afterwards.
25 March 2010, Library: Four of us met with no reading before worship, and went to the Eagle & Child afterwards.
18 March 2010 social event without MfW: We walked from Friends Meeting House to the Nosebag restaurant, where eleven of us had dinner at 7 p.m. We walked to G&D’s for dessert.
11 March 2010, Library: Six of us met with no reading before the meeting for Worship, and went to the Eagle & Child afterwards.
5-7 March 2010: Two of us enjoyed the YFGM Free event in Osmotherley, North Yorkshire.
4 March 2010, Short room: Eight of us met and we read part of the Swarthmore Lecture, 1998. The Eagle & Child has almost become the default option!
25 February 2010, Library: Nine of us met. We read Advices and Queries #21 and went to the Eagle & Child.
18 February 2010 social event without MfW: Six of us shared recent Quaker literature and walked to the ASK Restaurant for dinner.
11 February 2010, Library: Eight of us met and had no reading before the meeting for worship.
4 February 2010, Library: Nine of us met and we read Advices and Queries #3.
28 January 2010 social event without MfW: About eight of us met in the Lamb & Flag from 6 p.m., some going on to Quakers in Focus afterwards.
21 January 2010 social event without MfW: Fourteen of us met for drinks across the street from Friends Meeting House, at the Lamb & Flag from 6 p.m. Some went on to Quakers in Focus afterwards.
7 January 2010, Short Room: Five of us met and read Advices and Queries #7.
17 December 2009, Short Room: Four of us met and there was no reading. After meeting for worship, we had mince pies before heading over the road to the Lamb and Flag for drinks (as a change from the Eagle & Child).
10 December 2009, Short Room: Five of us met and read Advices and Queries #39.
2 December 2009 social event without MfW: At Nadia’s house, seven of us enjoyed a potluck vegetarian dinner and conversation, beginning earlier than the usual time.
12 November 2009, Short Room: We read the first paragraph of Quaker Faith and Practice 24.04, andAdvices and Queries #30, which is related to the next Friday with Friends. All five of us went to the Eagle & Child pub, for mulled cider and an impromptu game of “Advices-and-Queries Pictionary”.
5 November 2009, Library: Five of us met and read Advices and Queries #1.
22 October 2009, Short Room: Five of us met and read Advices and Queries #28.
8 October 2009, Library: Five of us met and read Advices and Queries #8.
24 September 2009, Library: Three of us met and read Advices and Queries #31.
17 September 2009, Library: Four of us met and read Advices and Queries#32.
10 September 2009, Library: Four of us met.
27 August 2009: A different format today, with Naomi providing dinner and dessert at her house in east Oxford. The four of us all helped read three excerpts: Quaker Faith and Practice 22.01, and 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 in the New King James version and in The Message. The usual trip to the pub was replaced by jigsaw-puzzling the Sistine Chapel.
13 August 2009, Library: The middle part of Advices and Queries #12 was read to the five of us.
30 July 2009, Long Room: The beginning and end of Advices and Queries #12 was read and some of the five of us went to the pub afterwards.
2 July 2009, Garden: At our first outdoor meeting, the six of us listened as Advices and Queries #7 was read aloud, including “There is inspiration … in the natural world”. This time we held all of the discussion in the pub.
28 May 2009, Short Room: The five of us discussed Advices and Queries #9. No pub today, as we were all too busy!
14 May 2009, Long Room: We continued with the new format, this time reading and discussing Advices and Queries #27. The three of us then drove to The Gardener’s Arms.
30 April 2009, Long Room: We adopted a new format for 2009. Meeting on a Thursday instead of a Monday, we started an hour later at eight o’clock. Advices and Queries #2 was read aloud before the meeting for worship, and we discussed it afterwards. The seven of us then walked to The Gardener’s Arms pub instead of eating at the Meeting House.
24 November 2008, Garden Room: After the meeting for worship, Barney prepared another wonderful meal: risotto and other dishes, for seven people, plus another homemade apple crumble from Kate Joyce. Thank you to special guest Robert Card.
3 November 2008, Garden Room: Twelve of us had meeting for worship and ate Jan’s famous lasagne.
20 October 2008, Garden Room: We had a meeting for worship followed by dinner, cooked by Barney. All fifteen people showed up on time, and thank you to Ellen Bassani for being our special guest from Oxford Meeting.
In the summer of 2008, we held a few small gatherings, following a pause that had started in 2007.
For many years up until 2007, on Monday evenings there would be meeting for worship in the Garden Room and a shared dinner in the kitchen. For example, a 1995 publication describes the group as meeting at 6:30 pm to do so, and other activities related to “grief, racism, tie-dyeing, punting, and even the odd trip to Laserquest”. At that time it was written that the “age range is something like 18-45 years old”. So our group has changed a lot over the years. In the early 1970s, meetings were on Sundays after the morning meeting for worship; guest speakers from various faiths would talk to an audience over jacket potatoes.
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